"Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness" according to the Greater Good.
Forgiveness is such a powerful thing for your heart, your mind, and your soul. It is one that forever allows one to walk as if things never happened. You know people will say, "I forgive, but don't forget." Well, as I reflected on my experiences with these people this week - I realized for one person, I could not remember any negative memories. As I recalled happy memories, I smiled; I even laughed here and there. And it dawned on me that it wasn't that I had excused any mistreatment; no it wasn't that I was saying, "Oh this is fine that I was treated like that." It was really me saying, "I release you from the guilt of the past! You don't owe me anything." And I realized I could say this because I had no hurt in my hurt.
This is something that we don't often like to acknowledge because it's easier to simply point the fingers and keep the black cloud of shame over people's head than say, "Yeah, I know that was a little while ago... I know it's long and gone with...but I HURT!" And truthfully, I think it's even harder to forgive ourselves. See, to heal, I had to also hold myself accountable to the role I played in my hurt. OUCH. We don't always like to do that. But can I simply give you a word, "IT'S WORTH IT!" It's worth acknowledging all of the crap that jacks you up and saying, "I have to let it go." See, I talk about this because I know too many people in bondage. Literally, I know people that accept that they don't want to acknowledge their past because they are too busy hiding from themselves.
See, when you realize that freedom is on the other side, you can be okay with being free - ya know?
Harriet Tubman said she could have freed way more slaves if only they knew that they were slaves! That's powerful. Ask yourself if you're enslaved by anything of your past today? Decide to be honest! Decide to be ok with needing a healer!
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Friday Freebie! :) SEXUAL SKELETONS
“Dedication
This book is dedicated to the boys and girls inside of women and men that desire freedom. It is too often that society will bombard us with filth, yet when we fall into the temptations of that filth, we are shunned–as if we asked to have the lustful desires of our sinful nature. Because of this, it’s hard to break the silence and just admit that we have a problem and that we want help. It’s hard to admit that we have desires that we know are unnatural, and we don’t know what to do with them. I dedicate this book to those that are afraid to speak out. I want you to know that the desires that you feel, however unnatural–however sinful, there is a way to be free. I am a testament of that freedom.”