So here sparks another controversial debate, with statements like, "The only thing that keeps a man is a man that wants to be kept." All of this, again, coming from women. I didn't see one man make a suggestion of what makes them faithful. I note this to be particularly interesting that women, again, attempt to speak for men.
Reason for the divorce? Offset's infidelity supposedly; however, it was also said that Offset was embarrassed by WAP and asked Cardi to tone it down. Now, stay with me, I'm going somewhere with all of this. This isn't necessarily about Cardi nor Offset - but a few things that I see repeatedly in our culture.
1. Women justifying the behavior of another woman - no matter how wrong they may be. I personally was grieved with the song and especially the video. As a wife, it's not even anything I would want to play in my bedroom. The lyrics were demeaning to the growth of a single or married woman. Yet, this song sparked the "rachets" and women were ok with that - saved and unsaved alike. Then of course, because this is not the first type of music made like this - of course, it's again, completely ok, hmm. I was grieved, seriously, seeing young ladies (16 - 21) I've taught as a school teacher on social media "turn up" from this song. Yet, we cancel the responsibility to be better examples and therefore accept anything that's popular and makes us feel good. So. Yeah, that's that.
2. Women tend to have a good habit of explaining male behavior, though most have never had a positive and healthy relationship with men or even a positive and healthy father figure in their lives. How is it that we (as women) know so much about men but ... repeat the same cycles of failed relationships consistently? Since when did we become experts on male psychology and if this is the case, why is it that our lives don't reflect this knowledge?
3. Women dismiss Cardi's behavior as Offset should accept it, yet drag him for not being able to be faithful. Hmmm...The justification was that Offset "knew" how Cardi was before he married her. Hmmm... was he a cheater before they married? I believe so. Soooo... with this mindset - shouldn't Cardi accept Offset's infidelities since she "knew" how he was before they married?
Of course, this is all speculation because I personally only know what I've seen from social media. Whether all of this is actually true or not doesn't concern me; what concerns me is the mindset of our women in this culture and how far from the scriptures we are. While I definitely want to touch on the topic of Offset's desire for Cardi to "tone it down" as it relates to women overall - I have a more pressing discussion in my spirit.
So I posed the question on my social media page one day:
"Can a man love you and still cheat on you?"
My answer? Do we love Yahweh, and still do wrong by Him? Can we do our father, mother, brother, sister, cousin, aunt, uncle, etc. wrong - and still love them? I think we all know the answer to this...
YES. We can.
So if we can, how much exactly does a man's infidelity determine his love for you? I submit to you the reason why the WAP doesn't keep a man, and it has little to do with whether he wants to be kept. Let's really look at this reality. From the White House to the Trap House, infidelity is a common issue across the board. Women rarely believe that a man is capable of being faithful anymore and would rather accept this than understand that there just may be a deeper issue with fidelity and men than, "Men gone be men."
The answer lies in Proverbs...
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. (Proverbs 6:32)
I grew to understand in studying this book, these scriptures in particular - that if I wanted a man that was faithful - I needed a man with a characteristic different than that I'd been settling for.
1. I needed one that knew the Most High - and had a relationship with Him. Not a religious man, and definitely not a man that that didn't believe in reading the Word. Why? Because to honor the Word, you must believe in the Writer. You must have a relationship with the Writer. You must know the Writer, intimately - otherwise, you would have no accountability.
I also grew to understand that I needed to be a woman, different than what I had been. As an intercessor in my home, one of my responsibilities is to make sure that I am covering my husband - in every aspect. There have been many times Yahweh has shown me through dreams the spirit of a "strange woman" attempting to seduce my husband. Many times, it's shown to me before it even happens. A few times - the spirit manifested and we were able to pray for instant removal of the young lady carrying the spirit.
To some women, this is extremely foreign. In the back of the mind of many women lie insecurity and the unbelief that men could never be faithful. I stand as a witness - as one who has been with unfaithful men - which prompted me to wonder exactly where the problem was; and to now, experiencing faithfulness in my marriage.
"Sexually Wise"
Synopsis:
The purpose of this book is to shed light on the warnings and guidance of sexual principles. It is not designed to judge, but to expose the current beliefs and tear down the strongholds that destroy our homes due to a lack of wisdom in this area.
It is my prayer and earnest desire that the words of God spoken through this book will penetrate the very spirit of each reader, destroying the yokes of bondage and allowing the new man to arise.
Reader Review:
While I’m not into Christianity and the Bible, I still found this a very good read and very informative. A lot of the points made in this book make a lot of sense and I would definitely recommend it to the youth of today especially those struggling with their journey to remain pure until marriage.
Until next time,
Love Zoë