"If you desire to be a BIBLICAL WIFE, you cannot be a feminist."
I made this statement on Threads randomly and apparently started a war. I didn't think the statement was that deep when I made it; matter of fact, I thought it would be quite understood. But then all kinds of women came attacking my character, defending this idea that you absolutely can be a feminist wife AND a biblical wife. It was in that moment I realized how common 1. feminist mindsets are and 2. that more women than not do not want to submit to the biblical role of a woman. They see it as oppressive, not freedom nor covering.
It was within that time, I receive the title for this blog - matter of fact it was the day after I'd written my last blog but I didn't get up to write it. But in the Holy Spirit's fashion - the title wouldn't leave me quite alone.
As I was laying awake, I understood it even more. See, I thought that by hearing the title "The Feminine Wife" we would be just addressing "clothes." No, we're going deeper into the mindset of the modern day American woman. The feminist woman. Because as I mentioned in the last blog, our wardrobe changed drastically during the feminist movement.
So, I'll begin with the root.
You cannot be a Biblical woman and a feminist. Period.
This isn’t up for debate — it’s a matter of spiritual alignment.
Disclaimer: Now, it should go without saying that this blog is for women who say they believe in the Bible. Women who profess faith in Yah, quote Scripture, and still try to mesh it with modern feminism.
What exactly is feminism? Let's see. According to a quick Google search, the first result says:
the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes
In "googling" a little further, I found a more detailed, consistent definition.
belief in and advocacy of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes expressed especially through organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests
In both of these examples, we see the foundation of the feminist mindset: equality.
And outside of the Word of Yah, one can surely position themselves as equal. However, since it's been already noted that I directly target my content for "Bible believing" women - it should be just as well noted that I am speaking of inside of the Word of Yah.
Now, one of the scriptures that immediately is thrown at me in objection is, "There is no male or female...in Christ."
The full scripture says: "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus."
However, first of all, it's not only important to note what Paul is saying before this scripture but the entire chapter. The entire chapter literally is talking about the redemption of the Gentiles because Christ allowed access to the promises of God. The scripture before that says, "For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ."
Let us place emphasis on IN CHRIST JESUS.
FIRST, this is by far one of the worst scriptures that can be used to justify feminism biblically because it not only shows biblical ignorance, it shows a lack of intellect as well.
Simply put, it is a scripture pulled out of context. In summary - Paul is simply stating that the Gentiles (Galatians) had been tricked to believe opposite of what he had originally taught them and he was rebuking them. At the very end, Paul says, "And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise."
So basically, beloved, he was simply saying that as a male, female, Jew, or Gentile - you have access to the inheritance.
THIS HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH EARTHLY STRUCTURE AND FUNCTIONING.
And I'm not hollering, I'm just speaking a little bit firm because I really believe it is important that we be not deceived by interpretations of the scriptures we want to believe.
Now, if we could turn and look at what it means to be a feminine wife and how the entire Bible (outside of that one misconstrued scripture) clearly, clearly show that man and woman - male and female - are not equal in the government of Earthly authority; most specifically in the context of marriage.
Let’s be clear: you can’t walk in rebellion to the scriptures in any way and call it righteousness.
π️ A Biblical wife is marked by submission — to Yah and to her husband. This, in and of itself, rests on the fact that a BIBLICAL wife has to see herself under the authority of her husband. The NEW TESTAMENT scripture that commands submission says,
π “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” — Ephesians 5:22
Feminism teaches radical independence. Equality. One doesn't submit under equality and while we're here - because the objection is that men are to submit to their wives. That is another clear misconstrued scripture, not aligned with scripture.
Yes, Ephesians 5:21 says:
“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”
But that’s referring to the general body of believers, not the specific covenant roles within marriage.
The very next verse (v.22) shifts directly into wives submitting to husbands.
So that "mutual submission" idea is often misapplied when pulled out of context.
The Bible teaches divine order and interdependence under headship.
Men are not told to submit to women. Their head is Christ. Our head is our husband. That’s the order.
And Yah’s design is not up for negotiation.
Flipping back to the "Old Testament" which is the foundation, we see the following order established:
π “Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” — Genesis 3:16
That’s not oppression. That’s covenant structure.
Feminism erases roles. Yah created them for complement, not competition.
And let’s not get it twisted —
π “Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft…” (1 Samuel 15:23)
Feminism teaches women to reject, override, and undermine male leadership.
Yah calls that witchcraft. Maybe, just maybe, this is why so many women were pricked when I made a simple statement. I didn't know it was that deep; especially for women who will say that they "luh the Lawd." It doesn't make sense to me. Do we (culturally) love Yah with the conditions that His Word must make us feel a certain way?
To be a biblical wife, one must believe that Eve was made for Adam — not the other way around. Feminism hates that truth. It is considered "oppression" and anyone that dares to speak this truth will be attacked for "hating" women. It was amazing to me the backlash I received and the insinuations that I must be "xyz" simply because I believe what the Word says concerning the difference.
For the Biblical wife? She embraces the order. She embraces her role. She honors it. She helps, not rivals.
If you’ve been trying to mix Torah with TikTok trends, or make the Word bow to Western ideology — this post is going to confront you. Because the Bible is an Eastern book, with Eastern principles. Eastern societies are largely patriarchal, as we see in the scriptures. Today, even with the influence of the Western world, feminism is not welcomed or a norm. Whereas here in the West, not only have we "fought" for feminism, it is largely considered the norm. Women want equality every where - or so they say.
In Hebraic, biblical order, feminism is not just “foreign” — it’s spiritual rebellion.
Because Yah never called you to be equal in structure and function to man. He clearly says that not only were you made for man, to be his help (and possession as a wife) - he clearly places the order of the household as 1. Yah, 2. Christ, 3. Man, 4. Woman, 5. Child. Literally the only authority you have is over your children and even that doesn't override the three authorities that are over you.
If you’re ready to walk in true feminine power — the kind that’s protected, positioned, and pleasing to Yah — you must release this idea that you are equal to your husband. This I believe, too, is why the way we dress as women is so important.
To be feminine in presentation, is to recognize that you are in a different position than him. If you did not read my last blog
Yes, I Only Wear Dresses/Skirts & Head Coverings — And I’m Not Oppressed, Just Covered
I highly suggest you do. I mention the phrase "I wear the pants in the house," insinuates that pants equal authority. I think that this is important to dissect. I also mention how I believe that wearing pants is psychological in its imprint. And if wearing pants can psychological imprint rebellion in woman subconsciously - then what would wearing feminine clothing (dresses, skirts, jewelry, etc.) do?
Example: I love Jackie Hill Perry. I love how she delivers her messages but I have really fallen in love with her music. However, much of her backlash comes because she still "dresses like a stud." Well, I have been around studs growing up a lot and while I can see a transformation to a degree - the lack of interest in dressing more feminine is a large stumbling block for people. However, here is my issue. If we're going to "judge" Jackie Hill Perry on the fact that she still doesn't dress "feminine" enough - why are we not requiring this standard of "feminity" for us overall as women? We can be quite hypocritical as a culture of believers, that's for sure.
But if we look to the Scriptures, it is evident that women were distinguished not just as different - but as second in structure and function in our purpose.
So what does a feminine wife look like internally and externally - let's point out a few things.
First and foremost, again, it has to be said, she understands she is not equal to man; and she embraces that. A feminine wife embraces the her nature as a reproductive being, and respects that. She respects and honors her ability to create life, to nurture children. She even embrace her monthly cleansing by cherishing and respecting the miracle cycle. A feminine wife recognizes her roll is to be a servant - a help meet in her home. A feminine wife recognizes she has power to multiply, to manage a home, and to build nations through childrearing. She recognizes her position and call to the home is the greatest responsibility she can have and she takes pleasure in fulfilling those responsibilities. We see an example of a feminine wife in Proverbs 31, and we can note that she managed her home, businesses, real estate, and etc. - for her husband. Paul tells Timothy that young women should be taught to marry, bear children, and manage the home. This is the embodiment of a feminine woman.
We see also the way that women addressed men, in the scriptures, as Sarah called her husband lord and so did others. In the case of Abigail, even with a foolish husband, we see the wisdom and servanthood that she operated in. You see, feminism is a heart post posture. Feminism says, "I know my role and I stay there. I honor it. I embrace it." A feminine woman yields her strength to divine structure. She is gentle, meek, and quiet in scripture. (It's no wonder the scriptures warn of the loud woman.) She presents herself modestly, not even in the appearance of nakedness. She walks in reverence fear of both her husband and the Lord and simply postures her heart to walk pleasing to them both.
The Biblical wife is feminine, not feminist.
You may be a well-meaning woman with feminist influences, but to be Biblical, you must repent of feminism and return to Yah’s original order.
And just in case you missed it...π Key Scriptures That Contradict Feminism:
1. Genesis 3:16
“Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”
Feminism says: “You don’t need a man.”
Yah says: “I created you to help the man.”
“Wives, submit to your own husbands… as the church submits to Christ.”
Feminism says: “Mutual submission.”
Yah says: “Divine headship and order.”
“The head of the woman is the man… the head of man is Christ.”
Feminism says: “We’re equals in role and rule.”
Yah says: “There is structure and covering.”
“Teach the younger women to love their husbands, be chaste, keepers at home, obedient...”
Feminism says: “She should choose what role she wants.”
Yah says: “Choose obedience to the Word.”
“Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft…”
Feminism exalts rebellion against authority.
Yah calls it witchcraft.